Let's talk about PEACE, good, not so good and elusive in our relationships

In a world of Me, Myself, and I where the focus on self is at an all time high and things like self care are front and center in our lives, I find it fascinating that so many of us, but especially men, are charging someone outside of ourselves with the most IMPORTANT ASPECT OF OUR SELF CARE and that is OUR PEACE. I find myself the participant in many conversations with people in varying stages of relationships that all share a common theme, and that is that they all most often state "I just want PEACE. THAT'S ALL." and this is inevitably said with a sense of exhaustion or exaspiration and sometimes with a touch of aggression as if they are lamenting a robbery of their most precious possession. I hear men say that they are looking for the perfect woman to "bring them PEACE." and I wonder if THEY ARE BRINGING PEACE TO HER in exchange? If not, then how can someone expect peace from a woman/man they are making miserable? Where will they draw this magical PEACE from if they are not at PEACE themselves?

So tonight I want to start what may turn into one of the BEST CONVERSATIONS out there. I want to know from the ladies and the guys too, WHAT IS PEACE to you? HOW to you FIND IT? How do you MAINTAIN IT? If someone else is RESPONSIBLE FOR your PEACE then are they not also RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR lack of peace or DIS-EASE? 

Let's go DEEP with it tonight and start getting to the bottom of things between us.