Being A Player Or Being Honest Which Is Better

 It's clearly a hot topic, and it pushed a lot of men's buttons. Emotional honesty isn't part of any feminist agenda, and contrary to some comments, being emotionally honest with a woman actually strengthens a man's position in a relationship.

The notion that emotional honesty isn't necessarily the best path to follow in relationships sounds like something a lawyer might say to cloud the truth. Honesty in all its forms is non-negotiable. Frankly, men who insist otherwise puzzle me. Whether or not every woman respects or appreciates a man's emotional honesty is irrelevant. Living in integrity as a man is what matters, regardless of the consequences.

The ideal relationship that every man dreams about is one in which he can be completely himself and be loved for the man he actually is. A man who can't share his emotional truth with a woman is in the wrong relationship because he can't be honest. There's nothing ideal about that.

There's another issue that came up that reflects the fear some men have of other men. There is nothing unmanly about men getting together to talk about their issues in confidence. Men who are secure in their manhood don't ask women for help them with their male-specific issues, because women don't have the first-hand knowledge. They're cool about being open with other men because they have the confidence that comes from friendships built on trust.

I've rarely seen a man victimized in a relationship because he expressed emotional honesty. Considering all the games men play in relationships, mostly to protect their feelings, the simple truth would seem preferable. Men who work to achieve their highest male self attract the kind of women who value strong men, not weak ones. If you live in integrity, you'll never have to look over your shoulder to see if the truth is catching up with you. There's great comfort in that.