RealitySpirituality - Rebecca Answers a Listener's Question

I'm totally overwhelmed by the state of my life.   We had a huge financial setback (500k) because of a poorly thought out investment that my husband wanted and then held on for way too long, despite all the signs and my urging.   So, now, we need to reevaluate and rebuild.    Moreover, since I was rear ended in January, I've been in PT, etc. and on the mend.  I'm slow to get around and tire easily.   I'm trying to put the pieces back together, for the most part, alone and it is sucking up all my time.  My spouse has moved on to his next pet project and has not been very approachable and takes on almost no responsibility.   He is fairly clueless and  believes that my workload should be manageable and I just take on too many personal projects.    I've been trying to talk to him for years but he is not approachable.   

THis is not the life I had envisioned.   Once upon a time, I faced each day with excitement and full of creative ideas.   Nowadays, I wake up each day and almost dread the relentless amount of work before me, from the time I open my eyes until the time I crawl to bed.  I am working to resolve my childrens' health issues and homeschooling my teen, who has a disability.    Sometimes I feel like I have to be both mother and father to my son to give him the guidance he needs, since my spouse acts more like a babysitter than a loving parent.   Am feeling less and less like there is much hope that things will improve, even though there is much in my life to be grateful for.    A sense of gratitude does help keep me going day to day.  What else am I missing here?  How can I make this marriage work?   What steps do I need to take to find deeper happiness and satisfaction?