Is sex on the first date good or not

he guys I spoke to that were okay with holding out for a few dates really surprised me. Their answers were candid, honest and they proved that though the times, they are a-changin' there's definitely still something to be said about passion, patience and keeping it in your pants until the clock strikes hot.

"The first time I went out with this girl I was really into, I had high hopes that she'd invite me back upstairs after dinner was over. When she didn't, I was pleasantly surprised, despite what I'd originally banked on. I realized that I wanted to wait for it, too — and the harder she was willing to make me work for it, the more attracted to her I was," Ethan, 29, says.

"If you want to have sex the first night we meet, I'm down," says Travis, 23, "but just don't expect me to call you the next day — or any day after."

"I think a lot of guys would stray from saying this because it would make them sound soft or too sensitive, but we don't really want the girl who sleeps with us on the first night. Okay, fine, some of us really do, but the majority of us are just saying that we do. We don't. We want the waiting period, the getting-to-know-you period. We want to take you to overpriced dinners and then complain about it behind your back. We want you to keep denying us, because it's sexy as f*ck, until you're ready. At least," Sam, 29, said, "I do."